HOW TO KISS, GOOD
80HOW TO KISS, GOOD
By Jeromeo
This is how you do it
How
to be a good kisser? If done right a good kiss can be mesmerizing,
intoxicating and magical. A truly electrifying experience that will
leave you breathless, and in a state of exquisite, euphoria.
But a
good kiss is more than just a kiss. Its an empathetic journey through
each others souls. It starts with the man communicating to the woman
that he has a genuine and sincere interest in more than just her
physical presence.
That he actually cares about what she thinks,
and feels. This is accomplished by being a good listener. There is
almost nothing a man can say to a woman, besides I Love you, that will
touch her heart as much as, looking her in the eyes and being a good
sounding board for her dreams, fears, and her desires.
Start by
caressing her hand during the conversation, and squeezing it gently,
when she becomes particularly emotional about a topic.
Don't wait
for her to suggest a kiss, if you are being a good listener; when she
has fully expressed herself,never interrupt, she will slowdown, and ask
you what you think, if you have been paying attention to her; you will
see the softening in her eyes,
And if you're really paying
attention-you will see-that she is tired of talking, and needs to be
held. Move in close place your hand so that your thumb is on her cheek,
and your four fingers are firmly but gently supporting her neck, slowly,
while looking into her eyes bring her face to yours.
Now here is
where most guys blow it. Do not start the kiss out, trying to show her
how studly you are, by sticking your tongue down her throat and gagging
her.
Lightly brush you lips against hers. Withdraw and give her a
chance, to say No to the kiss, just in case you've read the moment
wrong. But don't prolong the withdrawal, if she gets the impression you
think something is wrong with her it's over; If she doesn't look
surprised, reassure her by re-engaging;in the kiss.
When you
resume the kiss, once your lips touch, you want to parse your lips as if
you were sucking on a grape. When she opens her mouth, and exposes her
tongue, once again, don't try to give her a tonsillectomy.
Play
with the tip of her tongue as if you were licking a stamp or sealing and
envelope, keep your lips to an oval about the size of a fifty cent
piece, don't try to engulf her head. Never stick your tongue more than
half into her mouth. Half way is sexy, any further is desperate.
Wet
kisses are fine. Sloppy wet kisses are disgusting. Women know more
about these things than men, and if you've done your home work, by
listening to her, it is [OK] to let her take the lead now.
This
is also the safest way not to blow a potentially lasting relationship,
if this is your first kiss, with this woman, She will let you know how
far she's willing to go. If she shows signs, of being, out of control
and caught up in the physi-cality of the moment-if you really love
her-this is the only time you speak.
You are either going to ask
her if she's sure she wants to go further, some times another deep look,
into her eyes will tell you this, or you are going to suggest that you
wait, out of respect for her integrity. A good kissing session can last
for hours and hours with out the hint of sexual intentions if you are
really into the other person.
Either way a good kiss is more than
just a kiss, it can be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
It
works the opposite for women. Check him out, slowly, if he tries to
over power you with the kiss, get out of there; he doesn't know what the
hell he's doing, You'll have slobber in you ears and you'll feel all
yucky. And if he doesn't know how to kiss; you can bet he doesn't know
the rest of it.
Enjoy
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HAVE A GOOD ONE
Haha very nice and very true!
Wow!
I am in a long distant relationship and I am ready to get on a bus to go see him NOW!!!!!!!
He knows just how to do this and so do you! At least I hope you follow these steps. Men, if you do, you will never be alone. Women appreciate a man who knows how to do things in the corrct order and to not be sloppy and forceful.
I have dated the pushy, slobbery men and I have not wanted to stay in a relationship with them. Romance and taking time wins the hearts.
Now I better catch that bus!
So insightful and sensitive, its hard to believe ythis article came from a man!
%100 GOOD ON A 45 YEAR old Chinese girl i am 61
Wish I had someone to practice with lol.Sounds like alot of fun
very good lecture I would try to practice
My wife liked kisses until we got married. Can't really try this on myself. Hopefully someday she will come around. She just likes me to massage her or tickle her with my fingertips for hours. We seemed to kiss well together. I don't know what the hell happened.
may be i should try it
what i never see mentioned is that its a good kiss does not just take place above the neck. when i am cuddling with a girl and we start to make out ill have a hand on her neck under her jawline for a bit, and the other one on her side where her ribs are doing a soft massage of sorts. when you use your whole body to convey a message its just more powerful
OK John,
I see you and raise you twenty. The request for this Hub was for "How To Kiss Good?" What you described, comes under the heading of, "Necking," "Cuddling," "foure-play," and "making out."
It all starts with the Kiss, but each adds, it own enhancements. Thanks for the input however I''m sure someone can use the info.
good good,
i would say for sure you should be paying attention to what their saying lol. or you dont deserve to kiss her lol.
but all the same. good layout etc.
wow its not like i havnt known this already!!!! lol but ok
bravo, bravo!
aaaaw!!!......so sweet ...a man actually listening to what your saying???....that will so be the day....and i'v dated the pushy sloppy guy and it was not a picnic
MO-Jo
You havce my sympathy.
im my relation ship it wasnt me who kiseed her it was her who kissed me and added tongue.
Did you take notes?
hey, right, im seeing this girl we havent kissed and we arnt going out but we both know we are into each other, i know how to kiss and given advice i know how to improve but i have no confidence so getting to the stage where i kiss her is extreemly hard for me, i can imagen it in my hed but when it comes to doing it face to face i freeze and i dnt do it, how can i get over this?
OK, if you are both realy into each other by now she is probably wondering is you may be gay. some women are sinsative about this type of thing.
They ask themselves if something may be wrong with them, and after they answer that question NO, the next best answer is something is wrong with him.
Being shy is a natrual part of some peoples make up. Next time you're together, just put yourt hand on her shoulder, look into her eyes tell her you are crazy about her and gently kiss her. That should get the ball rolling she'll guide you to the rest.
nice
I am with this guy. He always tries to get all physical with me when we kiss. What do I do?
OK, you've got a guy that is out for what he can get he believes that sooner or later you will give in and after he gets what he wants he'll treat you like crap.
Kick him to the curve before he hurts you. Start spending less time with him and when you feel you can't avoid him make sure you have a friend along, preferably one that will get on his nerves by reenforcing the hinits you give him tht you are not that kiind of young lady.
Talk to some of his cast aways and let hiim kjnow taht you spoke with them, but mainly do not under any circumstances letr him get you in close quarters where he may try to date rape you to get what you won't give freely.
You may alos want to let him know that you have taken up some other personal responsibilty or chore that limits your time to socialize, so you may not have time to spend with him. I say this just incase he may be the violent type.
Take care and congradulation on being able to recognize a bad situation and not be ashamed to ask for advice.
Take care of yourself Jessi,Much respect,
Jeromeo
good info
I really wish more guys were like this. Keep going with the advice! More guys need it!
oh here is my problem i have a bestfriend he's a boy and he want me to be her girlfriend and because wer'e friends for a long time i accept him.now wer'e 2 years and u know we have lots of hugs but we haven't try kisses now he want to kiss me in lips but i just said ''this is not the time for that give me just a hug ok'' so please helpme jeomeo ella,
You called it Ella. If you're not ready and he needs to respect that. His love, and friendship for you must be greater than his desire to fullfil his own needs.
I can see that you have some life goals that you are interested in fullfilling, and are not ready to sabotage you future by engaging with teenage romance.
This requires strong self dicepline, and is to be commended. Even though it is your decision your parents are to be commended also for instilling such a strong sense of self asteem in you.
Tell your friend you are definately not ready to start withthe heavy petting and you need to stop seeing in settings where you might be alone with him and he may be tempted to continue to try to entice you into premature intimate activity.
Becareful and watch out for peer preasure on this issue not all of you female friends are as strong as you, now this doesn't necessarly make you better than them, like I said your parents have taken the time and you have responded, admirabley to their love for you.
Way to go Ella, Stick to your guns. just say NO!!!!!!!
jeromeo
Jeromeo,
I have been good friends with this guy for over a year. For the past 4ish months we've been getting pretty close. He's spent everyday with me to try to help me because I've been going through a lot of problems. We're not dating, but we act like that. He'll hold me and kiss me and tell me that he loves me. I told him I want to date because fwb's (Friends With Benefits) makes me uncomfortable. He said he would stop all actions, but still won't date. I told him not to stop the actions because it's comforting. I know he wants to go out, but he's afraid that something will happen that's going to destroy the relationship. What do I do?
Dear Angie 12119,
First, its good to have a devoted friend when you face emotional trials. But Let's get real bringing another life into the world is a huge responsiblity whether by design or by accident.
When the posibiltity of accidently having a child arises form upredictable behavior, in other words action that are not planed but just happen. It doesn't make any difference.
When you hug and kiss tenderly with each other you are awakening physical and emotional aspects of your existance that even some of God's Angels could not control.
You have got to decide what's best for you. Sure you are going through a ruff patch as they say, but thinkof how much worse it will be if you comeout of this delimma with a kid to take care of.
You friend seems to love you enough to respect you and abstain from at risk romantic behavior. Follow his lead, maybe dating right now is a side road your relationship does not need.
So stayout of the deep water especially while you are so emotonally vulnerable to wanting to feel even closer to your friend. It would come to the point where you feel, because he has been so supportive, you owe him the precious gift you have to give to a man some day.
If that situation were to arise and he was forced to compromise his feelings of protection for you, so as not to hurt your pride by refusing intamacy, well you see the possibilities for desaster.
If you are going to try dating try dating by going out with adults or at least a third party who believes in abstinence and will help you avoid dangerous situations of intimacy.
I hope this helps fell free to write back if you need to.
Lots of luck, You're only young once enjoy it. Temptation is deceptive.
Jeromeo
hello, i need help with this girl i like sort of; im not sure what to do. I heard that she likes me, and she has a fantastic personality, but im just not quite sure if she does, i don't really want to be turned down harshley if it turns out that she doesn't, tomorrow i am going to try and tell her, but if i don't i hope that u reply so you can give me some tips with this, i've never kissed a girl either, so if i do go out with her, ill listen and use all of your tips from what you said above, but right now i got the problem of actually telling her i like her
Sounds like you need a shot of self confidence. Here's what you do to get yourself out of the bashful rut.
I know you practice good personal hygiene, but listen anyway. Take a good shower. Use whatever after shave or cologne you have or borrow some of dads.
Now here's the part you need to really understand, there is nothing to be afraid of. she not going to kill you for showing interest in her.
Simply explain to her that you really like her and you want to get to know her better. Also let her know that you appreciate her for her intelligence, as well as her good looks, and that you are looking for a relationship based on mutual respect and shared common goals.
Then ask her if she would like to go out for pizza or a burger. If she agrees don't spend the time talking about you and your buds or how much you think about your self.
Ask her what her dreams for the future are college, and so forth. When she starts talking do not interrupt. Just sit and listen,of course when its time to reply to a direct question don't sit there like a dummy, answer her.
Women like for men to show confidence in themselves and though they appreciate humble men they want to feel safe and secure with the men they choose to accept as dating partners.
Now get this most guys think that the goal is hit a home run with a girl and then go back and brag about your conquest. go by the local bas sometimes and see how many old and lonly me you see sitting on the stools.
They felt that respecting women and treating them with the respect they deserve was cool now they are all by themselves. Before you jump into the real dating game, understand the consequences of piggish behavior.
Good luck, and if you mistreat her I'm sure she will write me and, [Bryan] I know where [YOU] live, lol.
Jeromeo
Thanks for your advice, i just got it right now, but today i was cuddling with her and then she had to leave and i really don't want to ask her on msn so im going to wait till tomorrow if i see her and ask her out when we are alone, because now i know that she likes me, and from today; i can tell that i REALLY like her now
Lots of luck Bryan.
mmmm just thinking back to the one guy who kissed me like I've never been kissed before. We'd seen each other often in this particular club, he was the DJ. He would watch me dance every Friday night then one night just grabbed me and pulled me to one side and we danced so slowly together. I can honestly say I have NEVER felt sexual tension like that in my life since and will probably never again. He kissed me exactly like commented above. He took it slow and I was on FIRE! We kissed for what felt like hours but was probably only minutes when my sister finally pulled us apart. I have never seen this man since but will always, always remember him...:-( I did'nt go back to the club for 3 weeks and when I did I had heard he got another job overseas and left. I do wonder often if he ever thought about me through the years. I know what we had between us might not have been love but there was hot physical/sexual/emotional chemistry and I thank god that I got to experience it once in my lifetime.
Sounds like a exceptinally, good memory to Me, I can just see you now...swooning!!!!!
Thanks for sharing.
in my country, kiss is not a good way to show our feeling, but i can't imazine that i'll never do it till i marry, so what should i do?
Practice when eating fruit. But first consider obeying the authorities of your country, better safe than sorry.
maria atx
Very Very true we young ladies are only young once and if you go into deep waters then you end up growing up before time you have got good advice keep it going. i have had to learn with an experience , my son is turning a year in 2 days ive learned some things along the way.
Thanks for reading my Hub.
Jeromeo
made have a great girl
Hey Jeromeo. I have a problem... There's this girl that I really like. She has excellent personality and looks (which I find a nice perk), but she lives about 8 miles from me but we go to the same school.
Sometimes, we used to sit together in class and often I sit in front of her, and when I'm near her, my brain basically switches to a alternate universe of some sort, I start making jokes, etc, so I think she kinda likes me. She seems to enjoy my talk and everytime I meet her somewhere she smiles, laughs and yells out my name in a big surprise. She also seems to be interested in my talk, looking deeply in my eye.
But I heard she's leaving the school and moving away far away from me at the end of the summer. I really, really liked her and I'd at least like to get a good-bye kiss or some kind of a "signal" that she did like me before she leaves. She is a very special girl. :)
Thing is that I lack confidence. Or so it seems. Everytime I go to bed or am very bored, I start thinking many ways how to get closer with her. Then it seems really easy, but when we meet everything always goes as usual and absolutely nothing happens. And now she's leaving ... It has, indeed, saddened my heart very much.
What to do? Let her go and not let her know of anything that I had against her so she might leave with a easier heart / less worried heart? Now, it's 3 o' clock in the night and yet again I go to sleep without her. :(
Like you said your problem is one of not having enough confidence. And being shy. Or not wanting to find out that she doesn't feel the same way about you, you feel about her.
If your feelings are as strong as you say they are and not just lust, [She] could be the one.
Do not make the mistake of letting her leave with out letting her know how you feel.
True love is hard to find and living a life of regret with someone, while you are wondering what may have happen with this young woman would not be fair to anyone you met in the future, you, or this young woman that looks so deeply in your eyes.
Her's an ice breaker, ask her: "when you look in my eyes do you see the same thing that I see when I look into yours?
If she asks you what you see in her eyes, respond with " I see me making you very happy as we build a long life together. But first how about just going to a movie or something.
With the invention of the internet...distance is no object if your feelings are real.
Now you know me...so if this is just about raging hormones you're on you own.
But if you think there is a future do not rush the kiss. Ask her about her dreams and her plans for the future. Listen to her and discuss with her how you can stay in touch after she moves.
And when you kiss her make sure you do it in a tender and compassionate way.
This will be the best preview of how your life will be and it should make her think of that when ever she thinks of you.
Get ready for long hours on the telephone and online, and lots of luck Guy.
Jeromeo
One more thing Guy, make sure you're holding her hand while you talk to her. Women love for the men they believe in to hold their hands.
Big thanks, mate, for the quick reply. If I see her again sometime, I'll 'try' to give it a shot.
ok there is this girl that i want to ask out. Problem is i dont know her and i cant talk to her because she leaves 10 min. Before class ends what do i do? *and great advice did it on my ex it was awsome for her and for me eh she could have brushed her teeth*
Its simple Sam tell the teach you need to leave early for whatever reason.
He does not need to know its a matter of the heart.
And they have these little throw away tooth brushes now. You get my drift?
okay there is this girl that i saw mauch like that sam kid but i dont have her for any classes
Excuse me Ms. This flower belongs to you? The flower should be a bird of paradise. They are the most beautiful, and they say;I think you're special.
You figure the best time and place to,meet her hint...at lunch.
Okay i love your advice.
This guy sent me a text message saying that he wanted to go out with me...but when i replied to this messade(with the word ummm)he said he didnt know what i was taking about and that he mustave sent "whatever the message was" to the wrong person because he didnt even remember having my number...what do i do? What do i tell him
UMMMMMM, Let's give this a little thought, what if this guy already has a girl and she intercepted the reply. So he was forced to play dumb.
I would consider the whole episode a fortunate set of unfortunate circumstances. If he tries to text again ignore it, it would say he only wants you for a booty call.
And I know you're worth more than that. Asheli.
He sure does have the wrong number. Tell him you're too busy making yourself happy to play games.
thx...a tip for ppl to get soft lips...after brushing your teeth run the toothbrush under warm water then rub it gently across your lips...it will take off dead skin
then put on aloe chapstick,baby oil,or patrolium jelly/vasiline
your lips will become irrisitably soft
ok i have this special girl in my class & and d only time we ever talk is when we're leaving. I want to get closer to her and let her know i like her. what can i do
Tell her before class starts, that you'd like to speak to her when class is over, and don't chicken out.lol
This is a fine chapter in the could be written book- 'kissology'!
very good but with all the girls i had they always and i mean always made the first moves haah but thats fine wit me :)
lol :)
I KNOW (Y) THANKS FOR POINTING THAT OUT.
F&FF,
Roland
if only i had someone to try this with. sigh
i av trouble with women cos i'm quite ugly and quite fat, perhaps this advice will help me to get the girl i like to notice me, i guess i av a problem with selfconfidence, nd say sry sll the time nd talk crap alot too lol, bt ur advice is kwl, cheers :)
Long as you believe in yourself size and cosmetic challenges don't matter. Keep a god sense of humor, and project confidence. At three women to every man the odds are in your favor.
well dats good news, thanks :)
Hi
ther is this girl and we have gone out and the last time we went out we kissed and everyone in our chool teased us and our whole grade is goon 2 the movies and they are pressuring me to kiss her again and ther gunnar watch
wut do I do
HELP
Do not exploit what could be a meaningful relationship. If they their into voyeurism let them watch TV. Don't be come a puppet of the crowed;giving in to there need to manipulate for their own amusement.
Time to start be an example and show the others what being a responsible person is all about. And that is protecting those you care about...from this type of immature means of entertainment.
Take the young lady to the side and explain your position and decision to her, not to make your feelings for one another a source of entertainment to the group.
She should be delighted to know how you feel. Caring is serious business and not to be treated lightly.
Hope this works for you.
hey I have been realy good friends with this girl for 2 years now we trust each other with every thing and I think we both know we both have strong feelings for each other but the only thing stopping it is our friend ship and I feel like she might say no coz she don't want to take the step coz people tell her if we go out then things would change ...I don't want to push her into anything coz that's not who I am. I don't know what to do and I never want to lose her.
Just tell her.
Invite her on a Dutch Treat date,where you both share the expenses; tell her you really care for her and you would like to share the rest of your life with her....as more than just friends. Reveal your true feelings fully prepared to accept her decision.
But let her know that if you have to...you will live with just being her friend, but you know your life will be unfulfilled because you can't imagine yourself having children-with, or feeling the same way about any other woman but her.
Ask her not to give you an answer rite then but to think on it.
Go home say your prayers and hope she's been waiting for your to step up.
Be sure to take flowers to the Dutch Treat date. And remember if you ever mistreat [HER] I know where [YOU] live. lol.
I'm not old so this is surprising that something this intimate would happen!!! I mean a kiss is a kiss
With all due respect, Marisa...if you don't understand [it] then you have never really been kissed.
ok i really need ur help.
theres this girl i really really like and she know that i like her. we've liked each other since 6th grade and she still kinda likes me. we are super close she tells me everything and i remember everything she tells me. i want to kiss her but she has a boyfriend. but everytime i have a chance to kiss her i chicken out. so what should i do?
oh and i have told this girl everything like how i feel about her. she has told me that she's alway being tempted to kiss me and that i have nice lips and everything but again i am to shy to do anything. i think im afraid of being rejected. again what should i do?
What's more important to you entertaining your fear or getting your lips wet, just do it don't think about it. while you're talking move in close and then gently take her face in your hands and [KISS HER]
thanks. i did it and i think she likes me alot. she said it was amazing. so keep on giving advice
see, me and my boyfriend have been together for three weeks, but we dated before andi broke up ith him by a stupid choice and ruined everything between us. but like, i am 100% i love wit him and we've talked about kissing but wewont do it unless we're alone and like i wanna kiss him like that... but i dont think i want to mae the first move. and we were gonna kiss this one time, andwe were laying on the floor together under a blanket and i was laying on him and his arm was around me and it was the perfect time to kiss, but i had fallen asleep 5 minutes earlier.. and i felt him shift into a better positionand i fel him ter his head to look at me, but he layed back down.. and the next day we were talking about kissing, and he said he was about to do it the day before.. but he thought i was asleep >:O
Sorry but I need to know how old you guys are before I say anything. Sounds like you're in hurry to jump off a cliff, and are not prepared for the consequences of your actions.
Are yoU ready for babies. Yea one thing leads to another, you're under the blanket, you're cuddling, hormones kick in you go ALL THE WAY, now you either want an abortion or you bring a child into the world you can't take care of.
Sorry if this is not the answer you were looking for but you have a whole life time ahead of you, don't blow it over a KISS.
You know your stuff mate!! Good Shit!!
Thanks Ev
Uh I'm new to this and I like this girl and I've already asked her out and she said yes and I haven't kissed her yet I don't know how to begin and I'm shy so I don't want to kiss her around a lot of people.What should I do?
Exactly what is it about this girl that you like Chirsz? Well just before you kiss her,look into her eyes and tell her. And no you don't want to kiss her in front of a lot of people.
If you really-care about her you don't want to exploit her or your feelings.
Now if you are really shy, then just look in her eyes and tell say to her "I feel the need to kiss you so badly right now." If she's on the same page you are that's all you'll need to do.
Then just follow the instructions given in the Hub. Take it slow cowboy, don't want to blow a good thing moving to fast.
Well she is pretty awesome and I asked her out on Monday and her mom doesn't even know she's dating yet and I can only see her in school so after school is when u want to kiss her but there's a lot of people around so I think I should ask her to go somewhere more private.
So let me get this, straight you are in grade school, or high school and you are trying to make time behind, her mothers back.
Why not go over to her house, knock on the door, introduce yourself, to her mom, like a real gentile man, and may be you can be up front with your feelings.
Maybe her mom will develop some trust in her if you show some real respect. Then you two can be together and can take your time and treat her like she's the lady you know she is, and more than that, like you really want her to be the leading lady in your life.
After you kiss her then what, what if things get over heated?
If you're just trying to hit it don't hit me back.
Yeah I'm in 8th grade but I'm not being unrespectful to her mom because she said yes when I asked her but your right I might try that but I think if her mom finds out it's over so I don't know if I should but I just want to kiss her and get things going for real then Might go to her house and tell her mom I'm going out with her and like I said I'm shy so I don't know... Your pretty good at advice you must have a lot of experience.
By the way I ment to say after I asked her and she said yes I found out her mom doesn't know she's dating yet.
You seem like a nice guy Chrisz, I'm sure you'll find it in your conscience to do the right thing.
And yes I have experience & I use to be shy too.
Lots of luck.
Thanks I Try to be as nice as I can usually but yeah thanks for the advice and sorry for over posting a bit.
I know that this was probably written a long time ago but I think that this is great and from what I've read, a great advice giver, so maybe you could help me.
I've really liked my friend for a long time but I don't think he likes me. We used to tell each other everthing, now we barely talk. He was my first kiss, but if anyone asked him he would say it never happened and he says he did it to help me get kissing a boy over with. I still like him alot and I have to see him every day because he's in 3 of my classes. What should I do?
Janabeth,
You have a pretty name, and you sound like you are very caring and intelligent person.
First ask yourself this question: What is it I don't like about myself that lets me allow others to mistreat me. You are some one who is precious, and has value.
Who knows maybe he kissed you on a dare to impress his friends, maybe he wanted more, maybe he's afraid to admit he has spiritual beliefs that won't allow him to tempt him self beyond;his ability to say no.
What ever the reason there are other males out there that will come and go in your life.
What is for you you will have, what is not you won't. You are growing as a person, and one of the first lessons we learn on the way to adult hood is, we can't all ways have what we want when we want it.
Lastly if you start acting as if you are not so interested in being with him; maybe the vacuum will draw him in. But if he doesn't respond,consider it a lesson learned and get on with your life.
Hope this helps
Jeromeo,
Perfect advice.
I was just wondering if I am going to fast with my girlfrend it's been 2 days and we've already started very affectionately kissing she's given me notes that say that she loves me and I'm fine with it just being puppy love but should I tell her I love her back? Thank you, Sam
OK Sam,
So you're feeling trapped. At little Puppy love as you say was fine but love sounds like a real commitment.
You're right Sam. Love is big word with even bigger consequences, like: yes I'm ready to have kids and settle down, or...You and I are exclusive to each other.
I won't lie you, Sam are in a tight position. If you say you don't love her she may snap. But if you lie just to avoid a bad situation you will be uncomfortable maybe for the rest of your life.
She could wind up pregnant and you would have messed up your whole life.
So here's what you do. Tell her you think she is the most beautiful girl you've ever been with, you think of her all the time but that you planned out your future and you want to be in a position to handle any thing that comes up responsibly.
You care very deeply for her, but your understanding of love says that if you care about each other you're going to fast.
If she's willing to wait you believe you and her may have a long term relationship. But right now you are only ready for light dating and now strong commitments.
If she gets upsets, hey you did the right thing. Sounds like she used to getting what she wants. Once she gets it then she's on to the next challenge.
So its time to really learn about women, Man up and handle your future,or she handle it for you.
Hope this helps. Wear shin guards:)
Jeromeo
Hey man thanks For the help
Ok theres this girl that i like we cuddle and kiss but i seem to not be able to think of what to say when i talk to her we both said that we would go out with each other but idk if i should if i cant think of things to say please help
OK Joe you seem like a nice guy; so I'm going to help you out here. Thing is if you're kissing there is nothing to talk about.
All the expression is in the kisses. enough been said and its time to get things done, or cool out. You just want to run off at the mouth because you feel nervous & uncomfortable.
Want to have some fun and break the anxiety jitters? Whisper in her ear real serious like,call her by her name what ever her name is, and say I've been meaning to ask you something real important.
When she looks up all dreamy eyed, and asks what it is, tell her, you've been meaning to ask her what her IQ is.
Now if the problem is you're trying to get to home plate then that's a different matter. and since you're not married I really can't help you with that. Sorry.
Hope this helps.
You want to know what her IQ is, now that's funny.:)
Thanks for the advice will see what happens
Hey theres this girl i really like but idk what i should say when i talk to her im a afraid she thinks im weird but idk please help
Write her a letter Arron, if she responds, you know you've got a chance. I she doesn't you need to find another love interest. Some-1 who looks just like her but more accessible.
Hope this helps
i really like this boy, we have been off and on for about a year or two. he broke up with me then we went to a dance together and it didnt work out. he has broken my heart many times but everytime we are around eachother we smile and it seems we always go back to eachother. he flirts with other girls, and i will always like him. what should i do?
Hey I'm back so your advice worked and now she wants to get in bed should I or do u think that would ruin our relationship please help
@a girl, Sorry it took so long.
Yes you like him and you get what you want he's
into you. But are you sure he isn't just taking advantage of your emotional feelings for him. Sounds like you're addickted, you need to get a grip-if he hasn't started treating like you're precious by now; what makes you think he will any time soon?
If you really want him next, time you see him completely ignore him, and continue to do so until he commits to only you.
It won't work if you don't do it right. Absolutely no conversation no hello no good bye; just a who do you think you are to treat me like crap, look and a cold shoulder.
He won't be able to stand it. You'll get flowers the works, men want what they can't have, and will do more to get it, or get it back.
I bet her tells all the guys, especially his friends "I can have her when ever I want. And when the other girls put him in his place and refuse to have any thing to do with him; he finds you ready to sooth his ego; till he finds another potential conquest.
Stop the vicious cycle and let him know you are no door mat
Give him treatment, and if he doesn't respond, say good by to bad news, you deserve much better.
Sam:
Go back and read the last comment posted to your issue. then make a decision, and remember it could mean the rest of your life.
Hey I've been dating this guy for a little while, and he's shy, and I wanna just make the first move already because I feel like he won't just kiss me already... I've never really been in this position before, and I was hoping you would have some advice.
You've got the best hand Julia, this guy is green as a bean. If you make the first move be sure to take him slow. Make sure he's the guy you want because he will be yours for life.
So plan every thing the way you want it this is your dream come true.
But like I said if you break him in, you own him, and there very well maybe, psychotic ramification should you decide to get rid of him later.
So my advice is be careful what you wish for, and proceed with caution.
And be gentile with him lol:)
Hope this helps
Love this hub and how it was well written with all the very good choices of words. Great Hub.
@ Sweet Chococarrie,
Thanks for stopping by and welcome to the HubPages.
Hey can u help me.. Sorry if the spellin is not the greaest....I have known this girl since I was about 8 or 9 and back then we had no feeling for each other but come the 6th grade her mom homeschooled the both of us where she delepovled a crush on me but back then I was really good firends with her borther wich to me it would have been weird to date he so we have baciscaly grown up together... It was not till about the 8th grade when I start to like her bit then she had grown out of the thought of us together as boyfirend and girlfirend so we have stayed really good firends thought the time... But NOW we are comeing to the end of our sophomore year and I we have been spend alot of te together almost everyday and I think I starting to fall in love with her... And I have spiled my hart to her.... Now every that we hang out with and both of our familyes have been tell us that we should be together for yares now but she has dated good firends before and they have all ended badly to the piont that they don't talk to each other and she had told me that she cherishes our firendship and dose not want it be be like the others... I don't want her to see her with a guy that won't treat her like she deserves to be treated if we were to jsut stay firends... Another thing is aftr reading some of the other post i am starting to like that I should just go for it and kiss her but I am shy and respect her to much and I have a fare of her rejecting me.... Can u please help me i almost need it at this piont
@ A 16 year old boy.
I am not going to start by telling you that you are too young to be feeling what you're feeling. But I will tell you that at sixteen, you still have your whole life ahead of you.
One of the reasons you are experiencing so much pain over this situation is because your young mind is not, weighing all the issues involved.
That said the remedy for you problem may be too hard for you to implement.
If she has the same feelings for you, you have for her then just grabbing her, and kissing her will not get it.
What you need to do is sit her down explain your feelings again and then withdraw.
Find other things to do. Be kind of stand offish, not so available to her.
If she feels the same she will miss you, and she will come around to your way of thinking and that will be it.
There is an old saying, " if you really love something or someone, let it go." If it comes back to you its yours if not it never was.
If you are ready to risk this then it will show maturity on your part and may win the day for you. It also may take more than a day, a month, or a year, for this to work out.
Hopefully you are man enough at your young age to see it through, but be sure to let her know what you're dong and why.
Don't just shut down and hope she'll figure it out.
And its the emotions that have you spelling so badly.
Ok so there is this guy who says he really likes me and wants to be with me and I really like him too. However there are two problems: firstly he recently broke up with one of my best friends...I talked to her about it and she said she doesn't mind but I think other people will judge me for it...also he is the year above and so is on study leave and isn't coming back to school, he's moving at the end of the year and even though he said he will come and see me when he can I don't know if it will be the same....can you see this working?
OK lets see if we can clear up your confusion. I can tell by what you wrote this, your heart was in it, and you want to do the right thing.
So first think how long had this guy had his eye on you while he was still with your friend.
And though she says different its going to hurt to see you with her X.
You may get a few moments of feeling content that you've got this guy, but how long before he takes a liking to another friend; or someone else where ever he is who makes themselves available.
You have shown that you have respect for yourself. Don't give that away, and if you love your friend you will be standing up for her too.
This guy wants what he wants when he wants it, no matter how sincere he seems to be, if he were truly cool, he'd treat the matter as if you and you friend were two sisters, and rather than trying to dogged out the family; he'd move own.
And lastly it won't work because if you went with him then you would no longer respect yourself. First you'd become uncomfortable, then irritated, then out right angry. So why put yourself through that.
Nothing wrong with being confused, but you have proven that you are; above everything else, level headed, and we all need help some times. Searching for the right answers; before we make mistakes we can't change back, can save us years of heart ache.
I hope your friend really appreciates you,you are really a cool person and she's not being honest about her feelings.
& I Hope this helps.
Jeromeo
ok so im ready to have my first kiss with my girlfriend and my girlfriend sayd she is but I can see it in her eyes that she is scarred wht do i do?
Be gentile with her and follow the instructions. Start a meaningful conversation then just shut up and listen.
Then while she's pausing to think of something else to say; place your finger under her chin; lift her face up, slowly move in and gently begin to kiss her.
First with closed mouth on the lips, then after a couple of pecks, placer you lips gently but firmly on hers, gently part her lips with your tongue, and don't try to swallow her head.
Read the entire hub before you get with her so you'll be clear on what you are doing.
So there is this guy that I'm into and we always seem to run into each other and there's this sexual tension between us but I'm too shy to say anything to him
My boyfriend wanted to kiss me yesterday but I backed down because I was nervous and I didn't really know how to give him a good kiss
Don't rush it wait till you feel comfortable then it will come naturally.
what ar the steps to kiss some one
@ Sharle
Please read the Hub.
Ok well I was just wondering if it is fine if a girl kisses a guy for their first kiss together. if so how should i go about it?
Thanks.
Kelly,
Follow the same basic instructions in the Hub, but just be more aggressive.
Play him for the complete dummy he is, ask if he hasn't notice that you are crazy about him. Then make the statement. "I've never done this before but I'm tired of waiting on you to, bring us together." Other wise he may think, you're a slut,and we certainly don't want that.
Then start slow and tender, be gentile with him, at first. Then when he starts to respond, grab him in the back of the head with and open palm and take his head off, stick your tongue half way into his mouth move it around like you are sword fighting with his tongue.
And just when he's going absolutely nuts, withdraw. Utter the words, "see what you've been missing." Then tell him to call you later, go hook up with your girls and have a good laugh telling them, about the dumb look on his face when you left him with his senses reeling, and his brain fried. :) :) :) this is going to be fun, and he will be blowing up your I-phone.
A girl taught me how to kiss, and this is what she did to me, she wasn't trying to be my girl-friend she just wanted to fry my brains and it worked.
Get back to on this.
Thanks Jeromeo!
I'm seeing the guy tommorow and i will do just what you said. :)
thanks for the help! :)
my God I thought I was sensitive. Good advice and everything. I have a problem, There's this girl I like, we've been friends for a long time, well she has a boyfriend, i've met him and he's rather mentally abusive to her. Is there anything I could do? I've asked her about it and she usually doesn't suggest anything, but I can tell she thinks there are a few things I can do. On top of all this she doesn't even know I like her in that way.
@Billy
first don't make her any promises you can't keep. Next just ask her does her boy friend treat her like a princes.
If she says know tell her she needs to treat herself better and consider someone who would treat her in a special way because to you she is special.
Also just share with her that her boy friends seems to have issues of low self respect or insecurities that he's taking out on her and that could lead to her being on the wrong end of physical violence.
Tell her you believe in "your heart" she that she deserves better and any time she's ready to see what being treated like a princes feels like, you're ready show her.
Then tell her, "by the way I've had these feelings for you for a long time," and that you're sorry you didn't speak up sooner.
Hope this helps.
@ Billy,
After you've made all the promises be sure [YOU] keep them.
Thank you, you're amazing at this
Tht how i kiss. If u dont beleive me u can find out.
Now datz reali nyc man! But wat i reali wana ask u iz abt my guy..he kisses me gently n nvr force me..bt he tries to touch my breast while kissing.i stopped hm fo doing so..we are in relationship from 2yrs.
@Raina,
Uh,OH sounds like Casanova is waiting for your body to betray you. The extra physical excitement that occurs when a woman's breasts are stimulated, is more than enough to cloud your judgment and give you next day regrets as well as another mouth to feed.
So I guess you'll just have to break it down to him, you're not ready to go all the way and the fact that he doesn't seem to appreciate that has complicated your relationship.
Make no mistake, his actions say he's having intimate physical experiences on the side, where & with whom, you can probably guess, but you can also bet that as soon as he breaks down all your resistance and you become a conquest, his attitude will change to one of resentment, because you made him wait so long.
He's just trying to prove to himself and the crew that he can, hit it.
Smart thing to do is make sure you are never alone with him gain,no matter how much he pleads and claims to be a nice guy. In fact tell him on the phone.
Then make it a point to have your best female friend with you when ever you think you may be around him. He's out to bring you down off your high horse, and will tell everyone when he accomplishes his mission.
While your virtue and self respect are still in tack put this guy in your rear view mirror.
This may seem innocent but believe me it is serious,. action speaks louder than words, and he's not taking no for an answer.
Don't believe me ask your dad,how he acted when he was a teenager,if he's honest you'll get an ear full and the two of you will become closer.
Hope this helps you focus on your future happiness and not a few moments of pleasure.
ima try it with my gf
I'm so happy to hear this from a man who knows what 2 do!! Thank God!! I am going to pass this on to some of the guys I know so they can get it right! Thank U again! I give U 2 thumbs up for the advice!!!:)
@ Latrica
Thanks and Thanks for reading the Hub
I met dis guy casually nd since den we'v bin discussin via phone calls. He told me everythin i needed 2 knw 'bout him includin d fact dat he's married wiv a kid nd reiterates dat he likes me nd wuld want us 2 go out bt we agreed on being jst frends. On our first date, he tried kissin me bt i refused. What do you think pls?
@ Kelly,
Hey this guy is a real jerk, he has a wife but he's convinced you that you're special to him, first a kiss then a hand where it doesn't belong then if he can you're another notch on his belt. Please don't set your self up for disappointment and self recrimination.
You deserve better, cut him loose and let his wife deal with this looser.
Thanks a bunch, i'l do just that.
awsome read gave a lot of good details should be fun tryng it
Hey jeromeo, So Uh with th girl and we aren't like girl and boy friend but we might as wel be.
Anyway ways, when im with her and try to move in on her i can get farther than jut kissing, and she seems to get tierd of it but wont ever let me farther, and last night she said im not getting it that easy, and i was just to fast.
Now Its been a min since iv had to work for a girl, but im real intereted in her. so dos that mean It was just me moving at a faster pace while in thi procces of tying to lay her. or what? I like this girl and can see it working well. I dont want her to get bored of me and i dont want to blow it, now i think i did but mab not she leaves tomorrow to go to florida to see her friend graduat shell be gone for a week, and this was just tonight, did i ruin it and can you help me with a little advice?
Thanks.
J.T.
@JT,
I answer this question for the sake of the girl you keep trying to bum [rush] into having your baby.
You could be blowing a good thing by trying to rush her into bed.
As far as were you stand with her, your problem is you don't listen. She did not say she wouldn't, she said she was not gong to be another notch on your belt.
If you ever hope to be intimate, with her, you have to prove to her that you are not just looking for a good time.
My best advise to you is "DON'T BLOW IT SPARKY" a good woman is hard to find, one who has respect for themselves, and wants a man who feels the same way.
When she comes back, give her some flowers, apologize for being a pig. And try making ever minute you spend with her a memorable moment, she'll let you know when she's ready by then you should be too.
OH, and don't try to fake it she will know your are BS'n her and that will be the end.
Treat her like a lady or step it off.
I need help, i really like a guy, he sits at lunch with me and my friends and ive known him for almost 3 years but were only barley friends, i almost never have time to talk to him and he doesnt have a cell phone, my friend said wed make a cute couple if id only flirt a little, but i feel that im to fat and ugly for him to even consider me attractive.
ive never kissed a guy befor either and every time i try to talk to him i cant look at him or i feel butterflys and have too look away from him because i think ill look stupid to him. im just afraid i guess that even if i do something hell just crush me
@ Sarah,
It seems to me Sarah that your problem, is not having a relationship with this guy but a basic lack of self esteem.
Pursuing a relationship where you feel unworthy of the other person is a recipe for many nights of sadness and emotional hell.
Ask yourself three questions what is it you don't like about yourself? What do you have to offer as a person? [And] Why shouldn't others like you.
My strong advice is this: you have many years ahead of you, and until such time as you have the confidence to feel secure in a relationship, you should work on liking yourself, and put trying to entice some guy aside.
You are offering yourself to this guy on a platter. You are making it easy for him to use you and them treat you like a dog until you get the message and leave him alone.
Like I said there is too much heart ache between then and now for you to play yourself.
And be sides, believe it or not there will be other young men, wait for the one who feels awkward around you to approach you and I promise you will have a better experience.
In the mean time if you feel our are over weight then start working out, its probably just baby fat that will melt away with a good daily exercise routine.
Try that, for three weeks then see how much better you feel about your self. Just don't become a little Bit** when you are fine as you want to be and this young man and others start to notice you.
Kissing can be great but your lips aren't going anywhere.
Thank you :D
Hey, great advice!
I know this was written a loong time ago, but I just have one question: How do you tell a guy you don't want to kiss him? I mean, I probably sound like wimp, but I don't want to waste my first kiss if a guy isn't the One.....
Thanks.
@Liz,
Not to worry Liz many of us are afraid of confrontation and hurting others feelings. Lets break down what kissing is really all about.
Its foreplay the prelude to having sex. Sure there are affectionate kisses that convey warm feelings but between unrelated members of the opposite sex, a kiss is first base, petting with cloths on is second base, with cloths off its third base, and doing the deed is hitting a home run.
The game being played is usually on the female; who thought the moment would last forever only to find she was just another turn at bat for they guy.
So whether you start kissing at two o'clock on on Friday, and he reaches home plate two weeks later, on a Saturday night, sole purpose of the first kiss is to reach the ultimate home plate.
So you have a good reason for not wanting to get caught up in something that may a waist of your time and innocence.
But how to avoid being taken advantage of, here goes, if the guy try's to steel a kiss, put your hand over your mouth turn your head to the side or move back, and looking him straight in the eye as if you are ashamed tell him your doctor is treating you Mononucleosis, the kissing disease.
Later you can tell mister right the truth and the reason why the other guys are lying on you. Cause he will not keep his disappointment and rejection to him self and just like he would tel his friends if any thing else happened, you can be sure he will tell about the mono, you know Sour Grapes.
But this will keep the guys off you for a long time.
Or if you wan to be more up front and witty;tell him you are not ready to play biological base ball,and kissing is throwing the first pitch.
When he looks bewildered you can explain the first base home run thing to him, or just leaving him felling intellectually inferior for not having a clue, but it will allow you to keep your virgin lips, safe for conquest by the Romeo of your choosing.
wow what else can i say can u please hand this advise out to every boy at the age of ten and the world will be a better place full of happy women . mmmmmmm now where is my man lol i might just print this out and leave it lying around say one copy for every room in the house
@ no name,
Thanks
Thank you for the advice, but how do you make up for height difference? I'm 6'2 or a little taller, and I don't know why, but I've never been attracted to any girl taller than 5'6. I haven't had my first kiss yet, or even a first relationship for that matter, but I'd like to know for future reference. Also, I'm not exactly looking to just make out with a girl, but being a young guy just out of high school, I'd eventually like to have relations with someone and grow up to have a family if it works out. Is there a more direct way to find out if a girl is also attracted to you than just looking into her eyes? I, never having been in a relationship, don't know how to tell if a girl is attracted to me by looking into her eyes. Thanks again for the advice thus far.
@Greenest,
What you're talking about is spending time with each other talking, and listening to each other. Most marriages break up because people get married for the wrong reasons.
Chief among these is sex. Men give women attention so they can have sex with them and women have sex with men so men will pay then attention.
Get into each others personalities and find out if you like the same things. From religion to sports, then start kissing and making out.
You'll enjoy each other more and the relationship will last a life time, if you are really compatible.
Like the hub says listen.
Yes, but my question was, how do you make up for the height difference? I feel like hunching to kiss a girl would just be awkward.
@ Greenest you are either going to have to warp her in your arms and pick her up "sweep her Off her feet" or lower yourself to her charms. Now if this height thing is going to be a problem for you, you may want to pick on someone your own size.
It was my first kiss and she said it was a little wet, but it was fine. It felt like she was doing all the work. How do I get better.
First reread the hub, next swallow before you begin the kiss, and third practice, practice, practice.
And then there is this something few men think of, [ask her] what she likes.
Showing that you are willing to please, means more than trying to appear experienced beyond your actual knowledge.
Relax, sounds like she's already into you, now its a matter of the two of you, growing together.
this is very good i think it will help me.
i just got a girlfriend and she has a bad breath smell and i realy dunno what if some1 can help me with that i will be very happy
thank you
@Leshem,
Lead by example, next time she comes over, make sure you eat something with onions on it. Then both of you go into the bath room, make sure you have an extra tooth brush that you have bought for her. Before you brush your teeth use table spoon and scrape your tongue.
Most of the bacteria that cause bad breath or located in the tongue. Scrape your tongue and then pour a little mouth wash on the spoon and offer it to her.
If she ask you, be honest with her and explain that notice her breath was a little tart and explain that this is what you do for yours.
Once the awkward part is over, let the games begin. She should trust you a little more after that, if not think of all the germs you missed.
Hi Jeromeo,
There's this girl i really like.. And she likes me too. I told her i like her and she said she did too, so i like, planned to kiss her on a day but i couldnt because we were at a kind of disco with my friends in a place packed with people and couldnt go out to be alone for a bit.. And i used that excuse whenever my friend told me to kiss her (they know that we like each other), because even though it was a valid reason, i was shy aswell. I have a bit of a problem with shyness, and she is a bit too !
What can i do? Help !
One of the things that women like is to be treated as if they are the center of your universe. You don't have to over do it but to gently kiss her in a crowd of people would let her know that you don't mind if every one else knows how yo feel about her. You can slow dance with her and kiss her on the dance floor. Be respectful and committed at the same time but just be spontaneous, tell her you finally realized that the only perfect moment to kiss her was, the moment you let your heart take control of your actions. And here's the pep talk, think of her being with someone else because you failed to show her how much you were into her. Now think of the pain of wondering the rest of your life what would've happened had you not been so shy. Lastly make sure your breath is fresh, and just [DO IT]
to kiss someone in light way is great than all i like it. but i miss friend
I just started going out with a girl that ive been hanging out with for a few months. She had wanted to be really physical with me since the begining, but i wanted to be her boyfriend before we did any of that. All weve done so far is kiss, which has been great, but shes trying to get me to do more, if ya know what i mean. I want to, but idk if she wants to be with me for who i am or because she just wants to get f****d. I dont want her to get board but i really dont want to take huge steps for the wrong reasons. Any advise? Thanks
@ Calvin19,
Well Young-Mr.Calvin, it seems like your dilemma is being wanted. It also seems as if you are her next conquest, if she presents herself so easily, she may have issues. Like needing to feel needed and expressing it through, serial romances. You aren't out for just a good time, and that's cool, but long term here may really test you emotionally, psychologically.
Sounds like you really care about people and you respect this girl and really don't want to accept that shes easy. You're kind of disappointed, and sympathetic at the same time.
Hope you see where this is going, get any more deeply involved than you are now, and you'll be channeling Forest Gump.
Bottom line, Just Say NO!!!!!!!!You've already thought it through
@ Calvin19,
One thing I would do before I told her we have no future, I would ask her what she wants, explain to her what you are ready to give, and take it from there. Honesty is the best adhesive, if you want a long term relationship.
Thank you. You were right about her being easy and me not wanting to accept that. Im not sure we have no future though. I would love to be with her but i want to make sure im not just the next stop on her serial romances. She seems to like me a lot, idk, ill give it some time. And i do know that she does need to feel wanted, you were right about that too. Problem is, am i the right person for her? I do make her feel wanted, which is good. Thanks again
@Calvin19,
If you're going to take this on, remember one thing. Low, self-esteem can make people do things that would other wise be against their nature. Once a person is assured of their worth they have less tendency to be needy, they reflect more self-confidence, and are generally more emotionally at ease.
Sounds like she's a keeper and showing the real feelings you have for her, my be just what the doc. ordered.
They call it love, take good care of, who ever, or what ever: takes care of you, makes you smile, makes you feel good just being with them, makes you want to be a better person.
Best of luck.
@Calvin19,
Last thing Cal, if you really want to have this relationship work, all you have to do is be a good listener. Let her know she can trust you with her heart and let her see herself with the pride you feel in her having her as you leading lady.
Give her heart a home and you two should be happy.
Hehhehe slobber in the ear.
Thanks so much, this has been a big help. more than you know. I know itll work out.
Hey jeromeo
There's this guy I've liked for quite a while. It's long distance. We went out Twice but he cheated on me! I still really like him and he likes me too. He says that it's hard to be faithful when we're so far apart. I get it but I don't think that's a good excuse. I wanna date him but I'm worried it'll happen again. Any advice?
Fool me once shame on you. Get the picture. If you go back, with him it means that you accept that open relationship life style. So no need arguing later own how it was not suppose to happen a second time. You can't have that Baby Girl it's not good for you, now get own with your, so far, misery free, life
Ok... That makes since... Thanks:)
SO. There's this senior at my school that I like. We went out once and it ended with a pretty good kiss. However, I'm in 10th grade, so I have no classes with her and only see her for a minute or two after school. I try calling and texting her, but she always seems to have something to do (Setting up that first date was a miracle)
I'm not sure if she is uninterested, or if she really DOES have a packed schedule. I'm trying very hard to text her or see her in the halls, but I don't want her to think I'm clingy.
HELP, RAHHHHH
Find her best friend and then find out her class schedule.
*sigh* Nevermind. She friend zoned me today...
Tanner, Tanner,
She may just be more interested in preparing herself to get a head in life, and so she's not interested in romance, but she likes you enough not to hurt you feelings so she put's you on friend status.
So if yo eventually wan to be with her pick up your game show her that you are also, preparing your self for future responsibilities and obligation, you want to be her man, time to Man Up.
Can you give me some ways to "man up" then? I really like this girl. Whatever it takes.
If she has accepted you as a friend then you may want to tr y being the best friend you can be let her know that you are interested in her future and not just getting you jollies.
Offer to Do home work projects together, don't just be an average guy telling her she looks good and you want to be with her, evidently she's been there done that and is looking for Mr. More Mature, be that guy.
But what ever you don don't make a pest out of your self or come on like a stalker. Invite her as a friend to have a soda, or a burger, or out to eat somewhere, then tell her OK if Being your friend is all that's open right now I'll take that job but I'm working towards advancement in the position.
Hey Jeromeo!!! Well, there's this girl Elyse. I like her, and pretty sure she likes me. HOWEVER, I used to like this other girl, Amber. Elyse knows I used to like her, and I told her I don't, but when I asked Elyse out, she said, "I don't want to get in between you and Amber." How can I make her KNOW she's the girl I want and that I don't care about Amber anymore?
You my friend can not see the forest for the trees. You sure you want Elyse? Before you get all caught up in Ms. Wonderful talk to some of her friends about about her past relationships, see how they tuned out.
Here's the understanding. Either, one of three things is happening:(1) Amber and Elyse are friends and Elyse has let amber know she still has feelings[ Elyse doesn't want to step on the friendship.]
(2)And this is the one to watch out for, you are already in training and don't even know it. Which means she is controlling and manipulative. The game is for you to start proving to her that you only have eyes for her.
And that she is worth more to you than Amber or any one else. This is not a sprint it is a marathon, unless you are serious a ready to commit leave her alone, she'll make you hurt your self. But if your hooked?
Starting today, make it a point to meet up with her and create situations where you can walk and talk. Like on the the way to one of her classes. Don't keep telling her you and Amber are through show her that you want to spend time with her.
She's got a very tender heart so be careful with That.
Now if you ever broke up with Amber, before, and then dropped another girl, and went back to Amber, you may be damaged goods to Elyse.
Either way, only one way to find out, step into the role of being a man, who understand the game, and knows how to play, with out hurting someone else or being hurt.
Like I said, short answer, show her.
Amber and Elyse don't talk, I know that. And I never dumped Amber or anything. Ok. I'll be sure to sit next to her at lunch, in class, etc. I have school tomorrow, so I'll tell you how things go.
Also, Elyse has never been in a real relationship. But I am sure that I want her.
Ok, go for it.
Like I said don't rush it take your time and you'll be her man.
I like this girl and she told me she liked me and then she asked me to go to prom in may. The thing is, there is a dance next week and she is going with a different guy! I feel like she likes him more than me. I was you going to ask her to be my girlfriend and kiss her but I learned right before about the dance so now I am wondering if I should have asked her or should do it before the dance. Also we only see each other once a week maybe twice and she seems to be different every time. I am really shy and have never talked to a girl before and I don't want to lose her but i don't talk to her very much because I don't know what to say. How can I find out whether she likes me or the other guy more?
Btw you have been spelling gentle wrong. Your spelling it like a French person would lol.
Just so you know. I am 17 and so is she. We email because she can't have a phone till she is 18 which is in May also. I am not looking for sex at all. I want to be with her for a long time but we live an hour apart and we ar both going to college this year at different colleges. I am homeschooled but she isnt. Hope you can help me.
You need to make a decision to step up your game, or to mount a good game that will see you with the person you want. so about this other guy you afraid of a little comp. Just ask her he she prefers, and why so serious at 17?
The only thing I can do is: share information, and caution you against premature deep emotional-romantic-involvement. And you can use what ever information I share with you that you think may fit the situation to Help yourself. You just need to put away your fear of rejection, and step to the lady with your heart in your hand. But don't give it to her until she proves she can, or even wants to deal with it.
Ok thanks. I failed again today though. :( Wont see her for another week. And she might had kissed some other guy because I've been to lame to talk to her. Should I call her or would that be too forward? And I don't have any game.
tryed this on my boyfriend thought i was a good kisser and kept asking me for more great addvice
Hoora"
OK, you don't have Game that means you're serious. so don't they have transportation that can take you to her where ever she's at. Or do you need a a]part time so you can buy a car. And what's to forward and so what if some other guy kissed her, your kiss is supposed to be the one that counts.
Get back in there. lol
Ok... been flirting with Elyse and trying to spend time with her, but when I asked her out, she said, "As friends? OH MY GOSH!!! We should have (insert name here) come too! I LOVE HER!!!" I basically wanted to yell at her and walk away, but I just bullsh**ed something like, "Oh yeah, forgot I have this thing to do that day...." So....... Not sure if this means I'm stuck in the friend zone, or if I should just keep flirting and etc. It's really frustrating though.
Shes telling you that she is going to have a third party along just to make sure that nothing sexual happens. Problem is you are in a hurry to grow up ans she's not. Yo may want to move on and let her do her growing up.
Hi Jeromeo, your advice is GREAT. I have a question for you. So I'm dating this guy and he's really cute, nice,and really funny. But someimes he is rude to my friends and I dont like it. How do I tell him to stop?
Action Bella. don't talk to him, or see him for a couple of days, spend the time with your friends when he asks what the problem is tell him, you don't like abusing your friends and if he continues the abuse and makes you choose between him and your friends he'll be seeing a lot less of you.
But lets get grown up about this boy is displaying signs of in security and anger management, he wants to run your friends off so he can have you to him self. He sees you as a possession and not a person.
Once he has isolated you he will begin to physically abuse and batter you, he may be cute but you need to put this potential serious problem in your rear view mirror.
Hey jeromeo,
we r just 2 m0nths int0 the relati0nships. .m 16 n s0 is she. .we have a l0ng distance relati0nships. .c is 61 kms away frm me. .we got 0ur relationship started through im. .n i met her few dayz ago for da 1st tyme. .i really feel it hard to spend a m0ment without thinking abt her. .i really feel for her. .c is kinda inn0cent nd shy gal. .we're gonna see each 0ther in a m0nth and dat wud b 0ur 2nd date. .i wanna give her a lip kiss in the m0st r0mantic way but i fear if she takes it 0therwise. .i dnt wanna ruin it up c0z c'z mah everything. .but can't help myself wid0ut kissin her n huggin her. .i even haven't br0ken the t0uch barrier. .help me plz. .
H0peful f0r ur suggestion @jeromeo
Sorry you're on your own read the Hub and apply.
@jeromeo
Owk. .but its her first kiss. .do you think girlz get offended through kiss?. .should i say i wanna kiss her?
Be gentile and go for it.
mmmm......its this boy we have been going out for a couple of weeks ice known him from p.1 to p.7 ive went out wif him b4 but dumped hin for the same reason each time !!! (his friends were making me kiss him and i wasnt ready!) now im goin out wif him again and im thinkin bout this .... but i still dnt knoww!!! by the way this is my first kiss i mean ive hugged and kissed boys on the chheek but not lips .., but im still nt reallly ready sooo wat shud i do hellppp
At this point in your life your conscious, it plays back little told to you by your parents and your own life experiences and observations. Some times your conscious can be referred to as your first mind.
Your fist mind keeps telling you to wait and not allow peer pressure to make you compromise your youth.
There is plenty of time for kissing now you should be molding yourself into the type of single young woman you dream of being, instead of engineering difficulties for yourself by engaging in premature romantics with some one who may or may not be around in the next two or three years.
You asked for help and I am convinced its your first mind looking for a cosigner to what you already know, the answer is NO. Kissing is the gate way, hug that leads to unprotected sex and unplanned pregnancy.
So ask your self, is your life ready for the permanent company of a child? Can you afford to take care of a child without your parents help?
Well I don't mean to be mean but this is an important decision and you do need help. I'm with your conscious, nothing but handshakes and smiles, till sophomore year college. I know it seems like forever but you'll be in some college football star's arms before you know it.
In the mean time for an experience of kissing, get a ripe pear take a big bit out of it, now cut out a small deep hole in the center of the bite, now close your eyes and pretend it its Ben Afflack, I know sounds silly but you're not doing this for YouTube, and that's the way it feels to kiss someone else's lips, and french kiss. This also works with ripe Honey Due Melon, but its got to be ripe and soft.
So yea back off and let your self grow from a beautiful, young girl to a beautiful woman, you are becoming, then do the lip lock thing.
thank u! :D
Your're Welcome. Let me know when you get your law degree:)
I like this girl and I wan to kiss her but I am always scared to move in. I wet to see the hunger games with her and I didn't even hold her hand and we hugged after. Does that mean she doesn't really like me? Is it weird that I always feel awkward whenever I want to kiss her and there's a lull in the conversation? Is it ok to have a first kiss in front of people?
My girl friend thinks if we French kiss she will be a whore do I'll try
You need to bust a move.
If you wan tot keep her wait til she's ready.
When I am alone with this girl I can talk to her fine but in a group I don't know what to say and when no one says anything she leaves. Can you help me? One more thing. I am scared to kiss her because I've never kissed a girl and I'm scared it might not make her heart beat faster and it won't make her love me more.
Her's what you do. You're wore out before you pucker up worrying about something you will never find out about if you don't stop thinking about it and just take in your arms and kiss her. The instruction start at the top of this page, read then apply. Now with all due respect if you can't pour water out of a boot with the instruction written on the bottom, of the heel then, but I know that's not you so go get the girl.
I have bad breath and it won't go away. I know that girls won't kiss me so do you know any ways to get rid of bad breath? I brush and floss my teeth every day quite often but it doesn't help.
Dude I Did it!! She didn't kiss back at first but after a few seconds she did. I almost got up and ran away. I think she was surprised but thanks so much.
You didn't mention scraping your tongue. And then try to analyse your diet for foods that create more offensive odors. And also rinse with peroxide. Now if your gums a bleeding and you've gum disease, see you dentist, for a solution.
This is more than just a kiss with a girl Trevor, you have in that instant started to evolve into the Trevor that will be the man of your future. Over coming the fear of being embarrassed and rejected, can hold us back from many things, but the fear of being lonely in love, is the most; fear inspiring of those things and once you [embrace] the courage to stop criticizing your self, and giving yourself excuses not to step up. Life opens up so many possibilities. The thrill you feel is the reward of her surrendering her heart to you be sure you, take tender care of her heart.
Im not sure if you can reply in time but maybe you can help for next time. I jut found out that tonight I will get to see the girl of my dreams. We email a lot and she says goodnight xoxo before bed. Does this mean that she would kiss me in real life? Also tonight we are going to be sitting on the front steps of our church. 2 things. 1 when we talk together we dot really has emotional talks that I could comfort her and move in for a kiss like your hub says. 2. Can you tell me a way to get her in a romantic mood and what to say before I kiss her? I have 2 chances left. Tonight and in 2 weeks. Please help.
The only thing I've come up with so far is when it's time to go ask her if she wants to say goodnight now instead of on email or just say goodnight and kiss her.
Since your opportunities are so few and your fear of loss so great. Make use of what ever time you get not for chit chat but to express your self. X's and O's Kisses and Hugs. They are also mean to convey a warm felling for someone. Presuming that that warm feeling is for you then yes she will kiss you if you approach it right.
And you don't have to be all let me comfort you it can be as simple as taking both her hands in yours, looking her in the eyes and while she's waiting for you to speak move in for the Kiss. When you with draw tel her how you feel and that you want to be her man.
Just say good night and kiss her.
I know this sounds really dumb but how do I express myself to her? Do I just tell her I love her and tell her she's beautiful? I've never done this before even though I'm 17.
Haha nvm I'll try again in 2 weeks.
I am going to cedar point with this really hot girl and it's just gonna be us two for most of the day. At first I was all excited but I've slowly begun to dread it because we are going to have to talk all day and I don't know what to talk about and she will think I me as a nonsociable person which I kindof am. And since she's not very talkative either it's hard. I have thought about kissing her lots but I'm sure she wont want to kiss in front of lots of people. Is there any way I can prep myself for being with her all day? Could you give me some ideas to talk about or something to help me? Anything?
I am a new 13 year old and i want my first kiss with this guy named Jack but he is dating another girl who said if i talk to jack she will punch me in the face. Jack told me that i always will be his first best friend but i really like him. Help me Jeromeo!!! WHAT DO I DO??? EEEEEECCCKKK!!!!
By the way great work and i read the whole thing usually i dont want to continue reading because its so boring but not with this article and please concider looking at my past message.
Well if I'm going to get to know you I'm going to need to know your likes and dislikes. First I'll tell you mine, make it a short list then compare. First item reveled is kissing on the first date. [There is know kissing in public, your love is not a floor show] Now when hears your answer she will tell you how she really feels. If she says she doesn't know Take her in your arms [like you know what your doing and kiss her] sorry I couldn't help my self, I've wanted to kiss you since I first saw you, and it was killing me not to feel you lops against mine. Now if this doesn't help you?
13 years old [Umm], She wants to punch you in the faces [ouch.] You don't really don't have a problem, yet.
Its evident that jack likes the idea of two beautiful girls fighting over him. Gives his ego a real shot. Evidently jacks girl has real anger management tissues.
Sounds like the only person with something to lose, in this triangle, is you. Jack gets the girl either way it goes, if you get jack you will get punched in the face [ouch.]
You are not 35, your bio-clock is not about to run out, and believe it or not there is someone out there who is better looking, who will be more in love with you, a young man you want have to compete 4.
Any young man who cannot see the danger in playing two girls against each other, is so self absorbed he will not make a good mate anyway; you'd just be in the way of his love affair with himself. Want to find out what a real jerk Jack is get to be friends with his girl she will tell you. Or just ask her what is Jack really like, first let her know you have been detoxed from your crush on Jack. Good luck an no I do not know a plastic surgeon who could fix you face [ouch]:)
Will do.
Yah it's me again. Just wondering I you could teach me how to express myself to a girl. And should I tell her that I love her before or after kissing.
Don't tell her that at all if you don't mean it. If you send time listening you will know what to talk to her about but just dreaming up stuff will get you busted later on.
Its a simple matter of asking her how is [my girl] doing to day? When she stops talking you will know what to say, if you blow it its back to the
X-Box-Games
NOOOooooo... Not the xboxgames lol. I really do love her but I think I'm going to take it even slower than I have been and wait for a few months to kiss her. I don't want to mess this up. She is way to important to lose.
So I really like this girl and but m dad won't let me date her till I'm 18 which is in August. Is it ok to kiss a girl while we aren't dating? And is it ok to be secret bf gf? Or do girls think that's retarded.
Bravo A.D. sounds like a good plan.
Your father is just trying to make sure you do not become a teen dad with no future and no hope hating every one and everything because you were to eager to experiment with dynamite. If you are going to violate the rules you are strictly on you own. I do not know your Dad but I have to respect his wishes. Hit me back when your reach eighteen.
For some this may be irrelevant but I am a Christian and I think I am devout. I would never have sex before I get married. She knows this already and she agrees with me. Even if we don't get married to each other we aren't going to ruin our lives. I just want to know whether girls don't like kissing before dating.
Kissing is like Ice Cream Greg if it done right its just as much fun while casting as not and it all depends on the young lady. Most kisses are not requested they are stolen in moment of shared affection. all this deliberating just kiss her if she likes it, cool. If not apologize and leave it at that. But bottom line the chemical and physical reactions of your mind and body to a kiss.....CAN GET OUT OF HAND. SO NOT INTENDING TO HAVE SEX AND WINDING UP IN THE MATERNITY WARD 9 MONTHS LATER ARE FREQUENT HAZARDS OF JUST A KISS, whether its before or during formal dating.
We are going to be in a semi group setting. There will be a Person within 50 feet of us. I am planning on hiding from everyone. Is it better to kiss outdoors or indoors? I can't decide. And I promise you I will not do anything more than kiss. I am incredibly nervous for this anyway how would I get up the courage to even touch her back while kissing her. That's what my friend told me to do.
Your friend should stick to B-Ball, you can gently hold her by her shoulders or hold her face in your hands, but what is this obsession with a kiss wait til the time is convenient and kiss her.
At her school there are other guys who like her and she is goin to prom with one of them. It's a really bad school and almost all the guys sleep with girl at least twice a week. And it's prom! Even the guys who haven't yet will probably try to that night. I was thinking that if I kissed her before prom came (which is on Friday btw) the maybe she won't be doing funny stuff with other boys.
Instead of complicating things with double reverse psychology why not just talk it over with her she wold probably appreciate that much better. As for the kiss just do it dag.
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Dude something is wrong with you. You should get some counseling. Get this out of your system before you get too old to ever fall really in love. I just thought this was too funy not to comment about. Sorry Jerome. Great hub btw. I love all the advice you give out. You are amazing!
Oops lol. I moved in for a kiss and she hugged me. Guess she wasn't ready for a kiss or didn't want to but I had a great night with her so it doesn't matter that much.
thank you i will try it
My friend likes this girl and he asked her if she liked him at Christmas and she said yes. Ben on valentines day right as he gave her some chocolates she said she onl like him as a friend. Now he is trying to get her to like him. Any ideas? He tried to impress her by wearing nice clothes and cool sunglasses and acting cool but that didn't work. We all knew that she wouldn't like it but he wanted to try anyway. Can he get her?
He needs to ask her what it is about him she does not like? Then back off for a while, about 30 days. In the mean time find out from her closest friend what she really likes and keep telling her friend how much he adores her. do not mention love or she will run for the hills.
One problem. She is homeschooled and doesn't have any friends. Would telling her little brother work just as well? He is really good friends with her brother. But thanks I will tell him to do this :)
Even better
Me and this girl don't go out but its only because of our friendship. She expressed that she wants to kiss me but I have no confidence. She's not pressuring me but I can tell its something she really wants to do. Kind of need help here
Haha well. She said she doesn't like him because he is too young for her and she doesn't really think he's cute. Don't know how to fix that lol. Now I have a problem though. This girl that I really like ad supposedly she likes me too finally got a phone. I thought that everything would get so much better. It's not!!! We rarely talk now. She texts this other guy from her school all the time. Last night haley told me she couldn't text and her little sister told me to stop texting haley and it wasn't me! Haley told her sister she was texting me and she wasn't. Then she asked again and found out it was this other guy is there any way I can make her want to text me instead of him? Is it just because se sees him more that she would rather text him?
Follow the instructions in the hub and KISS HER YOU FOOL, lol
Time to step off before you really get your feelings hurt.
Is that advice for my friend or me? Or both?
Both they may seem special to you now but believe me maintaining your integrity is more important. Just wait til they get kick to the curb by whom ever their chasing and when you see them in a different light you will wonder what had you so gaga in the first place. Especially if they are to self centered to be honest. Their are others out there go find one and be happy. Both of you. Send them both some followers and and a thank you note and don't tell them what you're thanking them for. Then both sound rather full of them selves to me you both can do better.
Dude thanks soo much. I been trying to get her out of m head and reading what you said, man it worked great.is already am starting to feel that way like why was I so in love with her. Thanks again man!
Always save some love for yourself when you find a woman who loses herself in you the way you almost lost your self in this chick, check her out and remember when the shoe was on the other foot.
Im trying man but it gets harder and harder to forget as time goes on. I don't have a choice but to see her sometimes twice a week and I always remember our one amazing night. And I want it again. What can I do?
Wait don't answer that. She just broke up with me. I just had my heart broken. I am glad you softened me up though. She told me it wasn't for the other guy but her brother told me she does like that other guy. You probably saved me a lot of heartache. Right now I don't even feel sad that she's gone. Is that a problem? Like am I all of a sudden going miss her really bad? She wants to be friends. I am fine with that. I will be her friend. Will it be awkward or can we actually become good friends
HI guys! i live in a muslim country and phisical relationships r forbidden before marriage!!! but people don't obey very much! and the worst part is that a very small amount of them know how to kiss or the body language of women in such situations!! oh my God! i'm living in hell!
Now you have her right where you want her. Now when that guy dumps her and her will just be there with the Kleenex. But don't make it easy for her. Don't speak to her for about three weeks. She'll wonder what's wrong was it something she said, the other guy will show his true colors when he finds out she's concerned about you and You've got her back in your arms again. Later Dude.
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Shirley Anderson 4 years ago
Love this hub! Had to chuckle about the slobber in the ear....I've dated that guy.
Good job, Jeromeo.